Should I break up with him over secret strip club visit?

Not going to tell you that you are insecure or that it's just what guys do. If my bf of almost 4 years did this...I would be insanely angry. It's not the fact that he went in general. Reality is, if he had expalilned to you why (he's never done it before and just wanted to go once) you may have been semi okay with it, since he asked and was honest. It's the fact that he spent $180 holy christ! That's not just sticking singles in a strippers waste band, that sounds like he paid for some dirty stuff outside of the club. Just my opinion. The other big issue is the fact that he lied, multiple times, and would've never told you if you hadn't found out. It'd scare me to think what else had been lied about since he seemed so comfortable doing it. Holding onto this for 8 months means you were extremly hurt by what he did to you, and rightfully so. As far as proceeding, there are 2 options. 1. You can talk out your feelings with a good friend and make a conscious decision to let it go.Decide to forgive him until he makes another mistake (if he does) By doing this, your willing and able to put the thought out of your mind and never bring it up to him again. or 2. You leave him, and accept that you can not forgive him or ever trust him again. I will tell you this. My parents were married for over 25 years. They divorced,and I found out after the divorce that my mom found out my dad had cheated on her 5 years before the divorce. (just a kiss, but still means a lot after many years of marriage) she could just never forgive him for this. She struggled with it for 5 long years. Their relationship was never the same, and she finally realized her feelings were never going to go away. If you decide you can never forgive him, don't make the mistake my mom did and stay in the relationship for years before you realize. Hope this helped.